第12部分(第4/5 頁)

hat　mean　the　other　extreme　is　more　healthy？　Emotions　erupting　at　short　notice；　making　us　scream　and　shout；　laugh　or　cry；　with　little　or　no　restraint？

One　thing　is　certain：　the　more　easily　a　feeling　manifests　itself；　the　more　superficial　it　is。　Using　moods　to　let　off　steam；　indulge　ourselves；　or　even　to　manipulate　others；　is　a　means　to　an　end　not　altogether　honourable。

Emotional　responses　need　not　affect　our　conduct。　Like　spoilt　children；　they　crave　attention；　but　once　we　recognize　them；　they　settle　down；　leaving　us　free　to　accept　them　as　being　there；　somewhere　in　the　background；　though　no　more　important　to　our　life　than　the　twinge　you　register　when　a　needle　pricks　your　finger。

The　purest；　most　sacred　feelings　are　those　we　encounter　deep　inside　ourselves　in　moments　of　solitude　and　peace。　Such　feelings　crave　no　tribute；　answer　to　no　needs。　They　are；　in　themselves；　what　we　consist　of。

Forgiving　an　enemy　is　a　sweet　pleasure。　After　all；　it　is　entirely　in　your　own　interest　to　rise　high　above　your　adversary　in　integrity　and　dignity。　Nothing　crushes　a　person　of　ill　will　like　the　opponent’s　magnanimity。

It’s　different　when　a　loved　one　inflicts　a　wound；　lets　you　down；　tramples　all　over　your　；　play　down　the　transgression；　almost；　you　might　say；　condone　it　–

when　what　you　really　want　is　to　pound　their　guilt；　draw　attention　to　the　crime　for　which　no　remorse　is　sufficient。　Punish　them　for　your　pain；　even　at　the　expense　of　destroying　your　own　self。

Bitterness　is　a　disease；　the　only　cure　forgiveness。　But　not　everyone　is　capable　of　summoning　the　inner　strength　required　for　such　a　feat。

Therefore；　it　is　advisable　to　forestall　situations　that　call　for　these　heroic　deeds；　by　acknowledging　hurt　openly　and　honestly；　at　an　early　stage：　b