第10部分(第5/6 頁)

d”　is　the　same　mind…set　that　will　repeat　itself　once　that　desire　is　met。

We　want　this　or　that。　If　we　don’t　get　what　we　want；　we　keep　thinking　about　all　that　we　don’t　have　and　we　remain　dissatisfied。　If　we　do　get　what　we　want；　we　simply　recreate　the　same　thinking　in　our　new　circumstances。　So；　despite　getting　what　we　want；　we　still　remain　unhappy。　Happiness　can’t　be　found　when　we　are　yearning　for　new　desires。

Luckily；　there　is　a　way　to　be　happy。　It　involves　changing　the　emphasis　of　our　thinking　from　what　we　want　to　what　we　have。　Rather　than　wishing　your　spouse　was　different；　try　thinking　about　her　wonderful　qualities。　Instead　of　plaining　about　your　salary；　be　grateful　that　you　have　a　job。　Rather　than　wishing　you　were　able　to　take　a　vacation　to　Hawaii；　think　of　how　much　fun　you　have　had　close　to　home。　The　list　of　possibilities　is　endless！　Each　time　you　notice　yourself　falling　into　the　“I　wish　life　were　different”　trap；　back　off　and　start　over。　Take　a　breath　and　remember　all　that　you　have　to　be　grateful。　When　you　focus　not　on　what　you　want；　but　on　what　you　have；　you　end　up　getting　more　of　what　you　want　anyway。　If　you　focus　on　the　good　qualities　of　your　spouse；　she’ll　be　more　loving。　If　you　are　grateful　for　your　job　rather　than　plaining　about　it；　you’ll　do　a　better　job；　be　more　productive；　and　probably　end　up　getting　a　raise　any…way。　If　you　focus　on　ways　to　enjoy　yourself　around　home　rather　than　waiting　to　enjoy　yourself　in　Hawaii；　you’ll　end　up　having　more　fun。　If　you　ever　do　get　to　Hawaii；　you’ll　be　in　the　habit　of　enjoying　yourself。　And；　if　by　some　chance　you　don’t；　you’ll　have　a　great　life　anyway。

Make　a　note　to　yourself　to　start　thinking　more　about　what　you　have　than　what　you　want。　If　you　do；　your　life　will　start　appearing　much　better　than　before。　F