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s　certain　I　wasn’t　smart　enough　to　drive　myself　home；　much　less　dress　for　work　the　next　day。　This　was　despite　the　fact　that　I　managed　a　home；　a　family；　a　job；　and　a　professional　staff。

Why　was　it　so　humiliating？　Because　I　pared　myself　to　the　l0…year…old　girl　next　door　who　effortlessly　surfed　the　Net　to　research　her　term　papers　while　I　struggled　just　to　log　on。　Instead　of　simply　concluding　that　technical　prowess　is　not　one　of　my　strengths；　I　concluded　I　must　be　stupid。　It　was　a　lie。

People　respect　us　as　much　as　we　respect　ourselves。　That’s　why　the　absence　of　self…confidence　can　telegraph　to　others　not　to　believe　in　us。

For　years　I　struggled　to　receive　a　pliment　graciously。　If　someone　plimented　my　hair；　I’d　discount　it。　I’d　say　my　hairstyle　made　my　face　look　fat　or　that　my　hair　was　a　mousy　color。　What　I　really　meant　was；　there　must　be　some　mistake。　I’m　not　worth　your　regard。　I　don’t　like　myself　and　can’t　really　believe　you　do；　either。　The　trouble　is；　if　we　persist　in　putting　ourselves　down；　eventually　people　start　to　believe　we’re　right。　txt小說上傳分享

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Sometimes　the　problem　isn’t　faulty　data。　We　have　an　accurate　picture　of　ourselves　or　a　situation；　but　we　capitulate　the　first　time　someone　challenges　us。

Several　years　ago；　I　discovered　a　grape…sized　lump　on　my　left　breast。　My　doctor　scheduled　outpatient　surgery　right　away。　A　month　later；　when　I　resumed　periodic　self…examination；　I　felt　the　same　lump　in　the　same　hard…to…reach　place。　I　was　certain　of　it！　When　I　called　the　doctor　to　suggest　he　might　have　missed　the　lump　in　question；　he　insisted　I　was　wrong。　It　could　not　possibly　be　a　lump；　he　said；　because　he　had　removed　it。　After　all；　he　was　the　doctor。

I　got　off　the　phone；　doubting　what　I’d　felt　with　my　own　hand。　But　fe